Thursday, December 4, 2014

Natural Hair Spotlight Month Wrap-Up: Meet Megan, Kiki, and Adrianna! Then, Be Inspired.

Hey everyone!

I hope everybody had a FANTASTIC Thanksgiving and ate a whooole bunch of yummy food and desserts! I know I did! I ate anything and every dessert with the word "pumpkin" in it! Haha! We are on our very last post for Natural Hair Month! (And yes, I'm very much aware that it's no longer November! Please forgive me for the delay!) For me, wrapping up Spotlight Month is bittersweet because I loooove reading these interviews and I hate that it's ending :( But on the plus side, I will be able to get back to my normal product reviews and tutorials! Yaaayyy!! This week for the final spotlight, I interviewed 3 beautiful ladies who are all dear friends of mine! They all have different journeys but they are all so inspiring! I hope y'all enjoy these interviews as much as I do! Lets start with Megan!
Meet Megan!
Name: Megan
Age: 22
Describe your “pre-natural hair” (relaxed, damaged, dry, etc.): I’ve always had thick, healthy hair. I just wanted to try the natural experience and stop wasting money on the creamy crack lol.
How long have you been natural: This time, 2 years LOL.
What made you decide to return to your curls: I originally tried my freshman year of college, then my sophomore year of college. Each time my hair just got so long that I felt like I had to perm it to see how long it had gotten. Then, I realize my hair looks permed just by straightening it so I finally decided that the third time was the charm and went all in by giving up heat and perms for a year. It was honestly just to try something new and have even more healthy hair!
Did you transition or big chop: I transitioned for almost a year and a half.
What made you choose one over the other: I don’t know what my head looks like without hair and I was afraid I would not like my head shape with super short hair! Yikes!
How long has it been since your big chop: I transitioned for a year and a half and cut my last relaxed end in October of 2013.
How did your friends/significant other/family react to your decision: They all loved and supported my decision.
How do they feel now: Everyone loves my hair!
How is your natural hair viewed in the workplace/at school/among friends: Everyone seems so fascinated by how full and thick my hair is because it has always been apparent straight but now people can really tell when it is curly!
How do you normally style your hair/what are your go-to styles: Oh gosh, twist outs and flat twists outs are my fave. I love to bun it up or put it in a puff. Recently, I’ve started to wear it straight more just because there is so much of it!
Are you a “I want to experiment with my hair weekly” kind of natural, or a “Put it in some braids or twists for a few months at a time and call it a day” kind of natural: Neither, I will keep my hair in braids for a while when I feel like doing it or I will wash and twist it weekly just to keep it clean.
If you could do whatever you wanted to your hair, what would you do (funky cut, color, etc.): I want a bob cut again soooooooo bad but I promised to stop cutting my hair *sad face*
What are your must-have staple products/oils: COCONUT OIL IS LIFE! I like Argan Oil too though! Just recently I started using OrganX products and I love them! My hair is so soft and moisturized!
What is the biggest life lesson you have learned on your natural hair journey: Just be yourself and love yourself naturally. That’s what is most important.
If you could change one thing about your journey thus far, what would you change: I should have done it sooner LOL.
What has been your biggest personal gain since the start of your journey: PATIENCE! Natural hair care is not for the impatient or the weak LOL.
Any advice for anyone considering taking the leap into returning to their curls: DO ITTTTTTT! Simple.
Business/blog/social media inquiry info: IG: @_meggoelizabeth Twitter: @iamKNOT_myhair

Meet Kiki!
Name: Kiyana Harris (Kiki)
Age: 22
Describe your “pre-natural hair” (relaxed, damaged, dry, etc.): My pre-natural hair was relaxed. It's never been damaged. There may have been a time where I used too much heat but my hair has always been pretty much healthy, long, and very thick.
How long have you been natural: Technically I am not natural yet. I am still transitioning :( But I am almost there!!
What made you decide to return to your curls: I have always wished my hair could curl! I just didn't think it was possible. When I came to college I saw so many girls going natural but just didn't think it was for me because everyone was doing the “big chop” and I couldn't see myself chopping off my hair. Little did I know that you do not have to chop all your hair off to become natural. I also thought that I would not like my texture because my hair was thick even with a relaxer so imagine being natural! Going natural was always a thought but I was always too scared to go through with it. My mom decided to big chop her hair and it looked great which really inspired me that perhaps returning to my curls was the way to go!
Did you transition or big chop: currently transitioning!
What made you choose one over the other: I decided to transition by accident. I was in between relaxers and during this time of receiving new growth I noticed that the hairs in the front of my head could actually curl! So when I did buns, and pony tails I could pull out two little jewish curls in the front! Lol this was something I could never do before. Then I tried braid outs and bantu knots and loved the way my hair curled. I also noticed that my hair was growing so much faster now that I wasn't relaxing my hair. I had all the intentions of getting a relaxer but I fell in love with the way my hair was transitioning. I also knew that I did not want to big chop my hair and by keeping the two textures it allowed me to see more growth which was very motivating!
How far are you into your transitioning stage and when do you plan to big chop: My last relaxer was January 2013 and I have no idea when I will be chopping off all of relaxed ends but I can tell you that it is coming soon! I have slowly been trimming the ends and I just received blowout and a big trim on October 30th so when I wash my hair and see how much relaxed ends I have left I can decide from there.
How did your friends/significant other/family react to your decision: My friends and family love my hair! They have been trying to get me to stop getting relaxers for the longest. Lol most people had no idea that I even had a relaxer.
How do they feel now: They love my determination to continue transitioning and reach my goal of becoming natural!
How is your natural hair viewed in the workplace/at school/among friends: I always get compliments for my twist outs and pineapples! Several of my friends have asked me to twist their hair for them.
How do you normally style your hair/what are your go-to styles: I definitely love flat twist outs! If I am having a good hair week it can last me 5-8 days and then I can do a curly bun or pineapple until I wash.
Are you a “I want to experiment with my hair weekly” kind of natural, or a “Put it in some braids or twists for a few months at a time and call it a day” kind of natural: I am definitely the experimenter ! I have tried everything! Bantu knots, braid outs, two strand twist outs, perm rods, flexi rods, blowouts with the tension method, and more! I did decide to get twists(you will see them in the pics I sent) in my hair and leave them for a month in a half back in january 2014 but I missed my curls so much I doubt I will do that again!
If you could do whatever you wanted to your hair, what would you do (funky cut, color, etc.): If I could do anything I would definitely color my hair! I want to do either a burgundy or a brown ombre on my ends. But I am going to wait until I am fully natural to do that!
What are your must-have staple products/oils: Kinky-Curly Knot Today Leave-in, coconut oil, water, ecostyler gel (green and pink one) , Miss. Jessie's Jelly Soft Curls, Shea Moisture Anti-Breakage Deep Conditioner and Cantu Coconut Curling Cream.
What is the biggest life lesson you have learned on your natural hair journey: When it comes to hair What I learned is that you have to find what works for you. I have watched so many Youtube videos and tried styles in hopes that it would turn out the same as it did in the video but I learned that everyone's hair is different. You really do have to try trial and error to see what specifically works for you. I never thought in a million years that flat twist outs would be my go to style. I was horrible at flat twists!! I tried this style by mistake and ended up loving it! Lol As far as life, I learned that patience is key! Being patient has been a key role in this journey and by being patient you will see that it makes the goal so much more worth reaching.
If you could change one thing about your journey thus far, what would you change: I wish I would have done it sooner!
What has been your biggest personal gain since the start of your journey: Being less afraid of trying something new or unfamiliar to me. It is when you are in the most uncomfortable positions that you have the most growth as a person.
Any advice for anyone considering taking the leap into returning to their curls: I say do it!! You will not regret it. It allows for so many styles! Before I had straight hair that wouldn't hold a curl at all but now I can switch from straight and curly without a problem! When I was in doubt I just thought to myself that if it didn't work out I could always return to relaxers. But also, make sure to do research and prepare yourself for the journey.
Business/blog/social media inquiry info: instagram is @madeinnyc_xoxo and Twitter is @baby_koxv

Meet Adrianna!
Name:  Adrianna Nicole
Age:  25
Describe your “pre-natural hair” (relaxed, damaged, dry, etc.):  My pre-natural hair was something I was never truly satisfied with. I could never get it to hold body or curls.  I wore it many different lengths and styles. But it was never what I wanted it be.
How long have you been natural: My last relaxer was March of 2010.
What made you decide to return to your curls: I was really interested in my hair looking good and being healthy no matter the circumstances. I traveled to the DR and one of my classmates had natural hair and it was gorgeous, despite the water, humidity, sweating, and so on. My hair was awful and unmanageable and I was SO jealous!  I even helped her twist hers up before bed, and it was so thick and healthy. I knew I had to do something different. 
Did you transition or big chop: Big chop. For me, it was all or nothing. I big chopped after going without a relaxer for 2-3 months.
What made you choose one over the other: I wanted to fully commit. I also got frustrated VERY quickly with attempting to maintain two different textures.
How long has it been since your big chop: May-June 2010 was when my big chop took place.
How did your friends/significant other/family react to your decision: My family was supportive and I got lots of compliments. However, my friends of other ethnicities didn’t fully understand the decision and didn’t have a clear concept of what was happening. I think it was a shock to them!
How do they feel now: I don’t think they really care very much, honestly. I think they are happy as long as I’m happy!
How is your natural hair viewed in the workplace/at school/among friends: Many people are shocked that my hair is natural. Even if they’ve known me from the beginning, they still ask questions about my hair. Those who knew me when I wore my hair kinky ask if I have a relaxer. Those who’ve only known me with straight hair can’t imagine what I look like with kinky hair. 
How do you normally style your hair/what are your go-to styles: I get my hair washed, conditioned, and blown out every two weeks. I went through a season of wearing my fro, then wearing flat, two-strand twist up-do’s. Now it’s always straight.
Are you a “I want to experiment with my hair weekly” kind of natural, or a “Put it in some braids or twists for a few months at a time and call it a day” kind of natural: Honestly, I have never been talented enough or patient enough to experiment.  I usually wear it blown out with curls, then headbands, and a ponytail if I’m REALLY desperate!
If you could do whatever you wanted to your hair, what would you do (funky cut, color, etc.): Hmmm. I would wear it kinky and loose, with enough to go into a cute ponytail or a nice wash and go. I would love some color—perhaps some golden brown highlights.  I also consider a short cut. I really like a neat, clean, and well-put together look.
What are your must-have staple products/oils: Haha. I’m a minimalist here. I must have bobby-pins and headbands of all colors. I also must have a light oil (Argan or Moroccan) and an edge-tamer that doesn’t flake or create build up.
What is the biggest life lesson you have learned on your natural hair journey: That I can be beautiful and confident no matter what my hair looks like. I have also learned how important my hair is to me and that it has such a big factor in my day-to-day life. I’ve also learned that you get out what you put in.  My hair is at its best when I am consistently taking good care of it.
If you could change one thing about your journey thus far, what would you change: I would have taken much better care of my hair early on, and not have to do so much damage repair. I may also have done Henna treatments to loosen my curl pattern rather than going to heat to straighten! 
What has been your biggest personal gain since the start of your journey: Learning about myself and redefining my definition of personal beauty.
Any advice for anyone considering taking the leap into returning to their curls: Do it! It’s how God created you. It can still be worn however you like and is much more versatile than a relaxer.  It’s beautiful and unique!               
Business/blog/social media inquiry info:  anharre2@ncsu.edu.  I don’t know that I’ll have much to offer, but I’m open!
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Ok everyone! We have officially wrapped up Natural Hair Spotlight Month!! Yaaaayyy!! It was so amazingly fun being able to interview these amazing ladies and gents and learning more about them! 

My main goal in doing these spotlights was to allow people to see more than just hair. A lot of men and women look at natural hair and either get discouraged because they don't think that their hair could ever "do that," or they think that natural hair doesn't fit the mold or meet the criteria for the beauty standard in our society. Every curl, knot, wave, coil, tress, loc and kink is beautiful! Our hair is our hair and it is a big part of us! It is so different and so unique! It holds so much beauty, power and history. We should be encouraged and proud of our roots (pun intended lol), and we should embrace all of who we are! This doesn't mean that women who have relaxers or wear weaves are trying to run from their heritage or that they are ashamed of their skin. And this also doesn't mean that there should be a divide between natural hair women and women who relax their hair. What it does mean, however, is that we should not shame those who choose to wear their natural curls and we shouldn't shame those who choose not to. We should see more than hair. We should see the things that we have in common. Rather than pointing out and focusing negative attention on the things that make us different, we should embrace what makes us different! No matter how many relaxers and weaves we may have in, our hair will ALWAYS grow out of our scalp curly, kinky and gorgeous! We should embrace it! If styling that hair isn't for you, then that's fine! But don't ever view those curls and kinks as disgusting, ugly, nasty, annoying, or gross because that isn't the case. God gave us this hair for a reason and that's it!

I'm not saying all of this to speak only to women who choose relaxers, but I'm saying this to encourage everyone! How my hair grows out of my scalp is how it will always grow out of my scalp. There's nothing I can do to change that! All that I can do is embrace it and move on. And know that when we say, "Natural hair is beautiful," we aren't just talking about the hair of the men and women who rock their natural 365 days a year. Every black person has natural hair, but only some choose to actually BE natural, and that 365 days a year definition, in my eyes, applies to "BEING natural." Someone who chooses to embrace their God-given natural hair by not chemically straightening it is someone who chooses to be natural. Natural hair, however, is the raw, irreplaceable, unique, one of a kind beauty that grows naturally out of our scalp! So when we say, "natural hair is beautiful," that is what we are referring to. That is what's beautiful and everyone should know it! Beauty isn't about what's sitting on top of your head! It's about what grows from within, manifests itself and the strong sense of pride and confidence that comes along with it. And of course, that applies to more than just hair.
Natural men and women, your natural hair is beautiful!! Women who get relaxers or wear weave, your natural hair is beautiful!!
There is no reason to ever think otherwise! There is no divide between the two because we all have that natural hair within us. It's what we choose to do with that hair once it breaks through the scalp that makes us different in a beautiful way, but the foundation is the same! I'm not saying that relaxed hair/weave isn't beautiful. I'm saying that if you relax your hair or wear weave because you don't think that you will be pretty anymore with your natural hair, or because you think your hair isn't beautiful, or you think that people will think you're making a mistake or that you don't have the "right hair" for being natural, then you don't have any reason to feel that way. Everyone is beautiful in their natural state! There's no need for plastic surgery and injections, caking on make up, drawing on 10 lbs worth of eyebrows, or trying to make your body look like your favorite celeb. Who you were created to be is beautiful and we get even more beautiful everyday!
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Though every one of these spotlight features made the decision to return to their curls, the events leading up to and the events following that decision varied for everyone. Just because we all chose the same, that doesn't mean we will all experience the same thing. We all have different minds, different lives, different textures, and different outlooks on life. Yet and still, beauty can be found in each and every journey. I don't want to be the only voice on this blog. My journey isn't the only journey that matters, and everyone should be given the opportunity to voice theirs if they please! These interviews go to show that EVERYONE had a different journey, and that is why I wanted to focus on them this month. When we see a natural, we should see much more than just hair. We should see a journey. We should see a story. We should see ourselves.

As always, thank you so much for checking out my blog! Y'all are awesome and I appreciate the support SO much!! Feel free to share the link and be sure to cast your vote for my monthly poll! It is located on the left under. "The Purpose." Since today is the first post of the new month, it is time to announce the winner for November's poll:

Question: What is your favorite part about Thanksgiving?
Top 3 choices (since voters were allowed to choose more than 1 answer): #1- The food #2- Spending time with family #3- Cooking

Thank you to everyone who voted! I hope y'all have enjoyed Natural Hair Spotlight month as much as I have, and I also hope you look forward to my product reviews and tutorials that will be returning this month! Y'all are awesome! Thanks so much for the support! See ya on the next post!


Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Natural Hair Spotlight Month: Meet Keith and Travis!

Hey everyone!

We are continuing with Natural Hair Spotlight month this week and focusing on the guys! I have 2 naturalistos (I just made that up) who I interviewed for this week's post! One of them is my brother-in-law, Keith, and the other is my love, Travis! I hope y'all enjoy reading their interviews and learn some valuable things! :) Lets get started!

Meet Keith!


Name: Keith Butler Jr.
Age: 25
How long have you been natural: Forever!
What made you decide to return to your natural hair: I didn't want to look like Katt Williams!
How did your friends/significant other/family react to your decision: *I'll answer this as if you're asking about my decision to start/grow my locs* My family didn't really like the idea of me having locs. They all thought locs were nasty. Krystal (my wife) was the most supportive. She was only hesitant because she liked my short hair.
How do they feel now: My family approves! I guess they see that locs are great when they're taken care of properly.
How is your hair viewed in the workplace/at school/among friends: It seems as if my friends/coworkers/peers don't view my hair any differently than before I had locs. They ask more questions, but that's about it. I think being a musician helps. A different/creative style is what most people expect from creatives.
What is your style of choice: I prefer to have the locs down. I don't really like putting them up in a hair band. Gotta let them breathe!
What led to that decision: I'm not really sure. I like to let my hair do what it does if that make sense. I don't really like letting environments (business, professional, etc) determine what I do with my hair, so I try to go with the flow.
Did you experiment with any other styles before sticking with your current style:I tried one of those braided loc styles, but I'll try it again when my hair is longer.
If you could do whatever you wanted to your hair, what would you do (funky cut, color, etc.): I would cut the locs off the sides of my hair and only have locs up top. Basquiat-esque!
What are your must-have staple products/oils: Water and any kind of oil. I've been using the African black castor oil (coconut scent) recently.
What is the biggest learning curve you have encountered with taking care of your natural hair: Product is bad for retwisting! It only causes buildup. And I can't wash my hair like everyone else. Regular shampoo doesn't clean my locs good enough. I used lemon dish soap last time because it also acts as a degreaser.
What is the biggest life lesson you have learned on your natural hair journey: Our hair is very important. Sacred if you will. Especially these locs. I feel lik they represent bigger things like my commitment to my wife. I'm commited to these locs through the good and the bad hair days. Just like marriage!
If you could change one thing about your journey thus far, what would you change: I would never have used product. It's terrible!
What has been your biggest personal gain since the start of your journey: Just learning how to care for what I've been entrusted with in this life. It takes a lot of TLC to maintain this hair.
Do you think you have inspired any guy friends to go natural or to take better care of their hair: Hmmm. I hope so!
Any advice for anyone considering taking the leap into living a natural hair lifestyle: Go for it! Don't let societal pressures determine how your heart feels. Do it!
Business/blog/social media inquiry info:
Twitter: @killabeets
Tumblr: Keith Butler Jr.
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                                                                           Meet Travis!
Name: Travis Eaton
Age: 22
Describe your “pre-natural hair” (damaged, dry, etc.): I had waves before, but due to using unhealthy chemicals that were in the products I was using, my hair was thinner in some areas of my head than others.
How long have you been natural:1 year and 1 month
What made you decide to return to your natural hair:I just wanted to have healthier hair.
How did your friends/significant other/family react to your decision:My friends and family tell me that the short hair look is fine so they were neutral. However, my girlfriend, who is the wonderful creator of this blog, was very very supportive of my decision!
How do they feel now:Everyone is happy now. My hair has come back healthier and wavier than ever.
How is your hair viewed in the workplace/at school/among friends:When I go somewhere, one of the first things someone tells me normally is that I have nice hair.
What is your style of choice: My hairstyle of choice is either a low taper or a fade.
What led to that decision: The 2 hair styles I alternate between are just very clean and professional, but at the same time, they still allow me have my waves.
Did you experiment with any other styles before sticking with your current style: No I did not
If you could do whatever you wanted to your hair, what would you do (funky cut, color, etc.): I would think about getting a part again, but that’s about it.
What are your must-have staple products/oils: Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Restorative Conditioner and Extra Virgin Olive Oil
What is the biggest learning curve you have encountered with taking care of your natural hair: Just how often I should wash my hair and how to properly wash my hair.
What is the biggest life lesson you have learned on your natural hair journey: Honestly, the biggest lesson I learned was how hard women have it if they decide to do a big chop. The world judges them and at times it is very hard, but you have to remind yourself that it is a process.
If you could change one thing about your journey thus far, what would you change: Nothing. I wouldn’t change my journey at all!
What has been your biggest personal gain since the start of your journey: Just more confidence and being more comfortable in my skin.
Do you think you have inspired any guy friends to go natural or to take better care of their hair: Yes. A few of my friends have decided to follow my lead. They have started using Shea Moisture, and they ask me for tips here and there.
Any advice for anyone considering taking the leap into living a natural hair lifestyle: Do it! The journey is more than worth it! Besides growing healthier hair, the journey will force you to gain more confidence, so it is a win-win!
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Thank you so much for reading! If you have any questions for these guys or any of the ladies I have interviewed in the past few weeks, leave your comment or question in the comment section of their interview post and I will send the question/comment their way and reply to your comment with their response! Thank you again so much for your support! It means the world to me!

Don't miss next week! It is the last Natural Hair Spotlight month post and I have interviews from 3 lovely ladies to share with y'all! And as always, be sure to cast your vote on my monthly poll located on the left under "The Purpose"! The winning choice will be announced on the first post of every month! Again, thank you for the support and I'll see y'all on the next post!